What makes up a good strong family? With blogs and Facebook and all the other ways to see into others lives these days without having to even know someone, we get a picture painted of what goes on in the lives of others. There is always the people who complain and seem to just be miserable 24/7, but more often I read lots of good things and am happy that it seems so many people are so happy with their lives. Truthfully, I'd be lying if I didn't say it makes me a little jealous at times. I think to myself, how come it seems so easy for them to juggle kids, work, hobbies, a house, a relationship and never have a problem? Then I snap back to reality. It isn't.
Most of the time we like to share what people like to hear, we like to paint a perfect picture. Who wants to see a big mess anyway? Truth is, everyone has problems, whether they only the share the good things, they have them, I guarantee. Just to clarify, we are no different here, in case you haven't guessed.
Lately my struggle has been with our family foundation. First off God is our foundation, but so are we, the parents, Prob and I. Its been so easy to put us on the back burner, especially with the unexpected 2 additions to our family within a year. Stress, fatigue,being busy and unresolved issues that we have ignored for far too long have threatened our foundation.
I realized something and that is why I am sharing this with you. I realized that in the midst of everyday life, you HAVE to take the time to take care of the foundation of your life or everything you care about will come tumbling down before your eyes. Instead of trying to pretend like everything is perfect, instead of just focusing on the kids and thinking it will just get better,that things will change, take the time to work on it. Upkeep is alot easier than waiting til everything is broken. What makes up a good strong family is the foundation. A foundation of love, helping each other, talking about things that bother you. resolving issues, changing, keeping it real...everyday.
We are rebuilding, and it isn't going to be easy, I can already tell you its an uphill battle but we are willing to do it because its worth it to us, just wish we would have done the upkeep. Remember this, you can fool anyone you want, even yourself, but instead, live by this, one of my favorite quotes.
"Be who you would like to seem"
There will always be problems, no matter what. All I'm saying is, do all you can to be the family you write about, Facebook about, read about. Most importantly don't neglect your foundation.
